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Email to Ex DH

February 7th, 2013 at 10:42 am

I sent Ex DH an email today asking for him to help with insurance situation. I bet he comes back and says that he didn't have the child support reduced when DS turned 18 and that he pays enough. We'll see what happens. I laid it all out for him telling exactly how much is spent on each kid each month.

I got an email the DS was denied coverage because he smokes and has asthma. I know it isn't smart but he is over 18 and I can't control what he does anymore. I am not as concerned about his insurance since he is over 18. I am more concerned with getting DD covered because I would be responsible for any of her expenses.

DS is planning on moving back in in March. I have mixed emotions. He will help with the groceries when he moves in. But he is such a neat freak and I am kind of a slob. It has caused us to butt heads in the past. Hopefully it will all work out.

I haven't heard back from the bank. I will probably call him tomorrow when I am back at work. I have been working from home this week because everyone is gone. Been very peaceful.

7 Responses to “Email to Ex DH”

  1. creditcardfree Says:

    It is good that you are seeking him out. He is also responsible for his children. You are definitely looking at this from all angles. Great job!

  2. snafu Says:

    I don't want to seem Bossy Pants but having an 18 y/o adult return home usually causes a lot of issues for you all and almost never works out unless you have a signed contract with very clear, business-like expectations just as though you were unrelated.

    DS would be required to pay room and board of a specified amount on specified dates and his own laundry for example. Since he is a 'neat freak' perhaps you would make meals ; we drop whatever we're doing every evening at 10:00 PM, set a timer to 15 minutes and dash about...paper clutter to recycle bin, pillows plumped, throws folded, dishes to DW, everything returned to it's 'home' before the timer pings.

    just a thought...

  3. snafu Says:

    sorry, my computer is dropping sentences...

    Trying to say if you make meals, DS agrees to after dinner clean up, sweep floor and take out trash. Once a week scrub floor and fridge. If DS share the bathrm, you would agree to keep it clean & uncluttered. You would need to negotiate care for public rooms entry, living rm, dining rm.

    You might like ETE [eliminate the evidence] each evening at 10:00 PM...

  4. scottish girl Says:

    Glad you are asking him for help. Snafu I like your ETE - will need to mention to hubby, it's a great idea.

  5. ironicone Says:

    Are you still planning on taking your NY trip?

  6. SecretarySaving Says:

    Are you saying that your ex did not have the child support reduced when DS turned 18 so you have been collecting insurance and child support on him while he was not living under your roof? If that is the case then I believe you have no basis to ask for more money. If the money is going to you then you need to provide or not take the money. You could always make an appt with the Attorney General and have Dad cover DD.

    No more bail outs, no more money from mom, no more looking for government programs to help you out. You are not low income. It's time you put your priorities in order. You are asking for money when you have your income tax money just sitting there because you want to use it for a NYC trip. While a few weeks ago there was panic about your acct maybe going negative and now the foreclosure/short sale issue. The cry for wolf is getting old.

  7. Carolina Girl Says:

    Hi NGG - you hadn't posted in a while. I hope everything is going okay for you.

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