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Rude Awakening(Not Financial)

June 21st, 2010 at 07:30 am

My son and I had a long talk yesterday on the way to pick up my DD. He told me that I am starting to remind him of my sister. It came as a total shock that he would say that, but I can see it too. My sister has some severe emotional problems, but if you ask her she is fine. She should be featured on that hoarding show. She has a very nice condo that is completely full of boxes from when she moved in. There is simply a path from the front door to her bedroom, where she spends all of her time. Since the boxes have been there for about 4 years, they gave gathered mail and other things that don't belong. It is a total mess. She is also quite overwieght, which is why she is on oxygen all the time. Her body can't support her weight. When my son said this, I did see some similiarities that I had overlooked. I have gained 50 pounds over the last few months to become the heaviest I have ever been. I was alreay overweight to begin with. This is something that has bothered me all along. There are boxes in my bedroom that I haven't unpacked from our move back in April. The house isn't getting cleaned like it should. On the weekends, I just sit around and watch tv. If I could stay in bed all day, I would.

Since my son pointed these items out to me yesterday, I have decided to change back to the person I used to be. I am going toget the boxes in my room unpacked and get it cleaned up. I walked on the treadmill last night for 15 minutes. Will slowly build that up to more. We actually ate dinner last night as a family, the first time in a long time that I have cooked instead of getting fast food. My son offered to walk around downtown with me once a week and to help me with dinners. The thing about dinners is that we are rarely home in time to make a good dinner. But I am going to try.

I don't want to end up like my sister. She never leaves her house that you can barely walk through. I am going to try to change.

9 Responses to “Rude Awakening(Not Financial)”

  1. HouseHopeful Says:

    I think its great that you have a good enough relationship with your son that he could talk to you about being worried about you.

    And its great that you're taking that feedback and working on changing things. I think its very easy to fall into a trap of not getting things done. And its always hard to make significant change. I applaud you for taking those steps!

  2. LittleGopher Says:

    You're off to a great start! It's wonderful how supportive and caring your son is too. Best wishes to you!!

  3. creditcardfree Says:

    I would also talk to your doctor/counselor about your feelings. It could be you are depressed, hense the desire to stay in bed and lack of motivation. I think it is wonderful that your son talked to you and is so supportive. Best wishes and let us know how you progress.

  4. north georgia gal Says:

    Thanks guys for the support! CCF...I have been diagnosed as being bi-polar and am one 3 antidepressants! At this point I think it is up to me to pull myself out of it!

  5. Broken Arrow Says:

    I am very glad that you can acknowledge this. Identifying and acknowledging a problem is the first step towards recovery and a brighter future.

  6. Joanne Says:

    Hi, I read your entry, and just want wish you the best. You probably already know this.... but , some meds can cause weight gain. Also, haven't you been through some big changes lately? {A divorce, and house move?} Even though those are positive, it's still stuff that you went throug. You should be proud of yourself for all that you have accomplished recently. Do you have a counselor to talk to, along with taking meds? Take care of yourself. It's obvious that you are really trying....Bless you.

  7. whitestripe Says:

    i love that your son told you, and that you actually listened to him. that is more than i could get from my own mother regarding her alcohol problems. so i thank you for listening to him and taking it on as a positive - not taking offence, going into denial or getting on the defensive.
    finding someone to talk to, as mentioned in other comments, might be a big help. not only a motivator, but someone to help you sort through what led you to be this way, and maybe train you to recognise the triggers and signals in the future. much love xx

  8. Miclason Says:

    ((hugs)) congratulations on taking that first step! (recognizing the problem) and also congrats on the great relationship you obviously have with your son! You can do it!!!

  9. north georgia gal Says:

    Thanks guys for the support! I do have a therapist that I see regularly, but this issue has never come up. I am sure that it will now.

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