It took a long time in life but I am finally learning to live by a budget. I don't spend money like I used to and rarely shop anymore. I am able to save money and am close to being debt free.
I transferred $10 more into my vacation fund. I had budgeted $30 for haircuts and it was only $25. I also got my first check for completing surveys. Every little bit helps!
This is not really in reply to your current post, I have watched your blog for a while and always wonder what you are doing to divorce your finances? Does he have Child Support Payments? Legally speaking if you split everything into his name or yours, does that mean bill collectors cant come after you if you do not live in a community state for his bills? How do you get him to pay for living in the home?
I ask because I am a codependant, fixer and enabler and wondering what I can do to no longer enable my husbands financial irresponsiblity.
Coupon addict: I sent you an email but in case you didn't get it, thought I would respond here as well. I am not sure about the legal issues. For a long time, I was heading to the funny farm trying to keep up with my own expenses and then trying to make his payments and keep him in the clear. It couldn't be done...especially when he wasn't giving me ANY money toward his expenses or the household.(due to poor money management he was always broke). So I stopped. He now gives me a set amount each week toward household expenses and savings. When he says he needs something, I just kind of change the subject, Sometimes I feel really cold, but I have to stop or else he will never take care of himself and I can't afford to take care of both of us, either financially or emotionally.
My email gives you further details. Hope this helps.
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I ask because I am a codependant, fixer and enabler and wondering what I can do to no longer enable my husbands financial irresponsiblity.
Thank you.
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My email gives you further details. Hope this helps.