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Still trying to avoid eating out and another issue

December 22nd, 2008 at 01:12 pm

My daughter had a violin performance yesterday. My husband and I were both starving afterward and although we were about 9 miles from home, in our previous spending life, we would have driven straight to the Hardee's across the street. However, we stuck it out and went home to eat. I realize that this may seem like the obvious thing for some of you, but not too long ago, I had troubles avoiding eating out for convenience, especially when I am with someone else. This was really a huge thing for me. I have found that my cravings for the fast food have died down too.

I am also having a hard time making the right decision on another issue. My best friend has MS and has not been able to work for quite some time. Her husband has been saving for Christmas and I thought it was all taken care of. She told me last night that although they have the big presents, they don't have any presents under the tree(oogling presents until Christmas is part of the fun for small children). Since I love her kids like my own, I am starting to feel guilty about the amount of money i spent on my children(which was a minimal amount this year). Well, not exactly feel guilty, but more like horrible that I can't help her kids more. My sisters have purchased quite a bit in addition to what I have purchased, so my kids each have more than a few presents under the tree. If my BF had told me earlier, I would have gone right out and purchased at least a couple of things per child to go under the tree. But now I have exhausted my Christmas budget...and if I do buy anything, it will seriously throw my regular budget out of whack, unless I can figure something else out. The old me wouldn't have cared. The new me is fighting a raging battle against the old me. For now the new me is winning.

Why does doing something right for myself also make me feel so bad?

3 Responses to “Still trying to avoid eating out and another issue”

  1. Ms. Pearl Says:

    I am in a similar situation with a friend at work who doesn't have ANY money for presents for her kids. I gave her daughter some barely used clothes from my kids' closets. I know we are all supposed to be super frugal but could you spare $10? I don't know how old they are but you can find cute little gifts for $5, like gloves, lip gloss etc...

    If you cannot do it then don't feel bad about it. There is a good chance these kids may be receiving gifts from other relatives or friends. Maybe you could bake them some cookies and wrap up some candy for them?

  2. ceejay74 Says:

    I know exactly what you mean about eating out. I used to find it impossible to avoid; it seemed I would get hungry without warning and suddenly need to pick something up or sit down at a restaurant.

    Of course, it's just planning. If you know roughly how long you're going to be out and about, you'll know whether you'll get hungry or not. Now when my family is going somewhere, we either time it around eating at home before and after, or we make sure we each have enough pocket money to grab something out.

    So we still do eat out, but we decide when that's acceptable to us. So there's no caught-off-guard eating out, and none of the guilt and brokeness that comes with. Smile

  3. creditcardfree Says:

    Do you have any gifts at home that you could regift? Do you have any $10 off coupons for a store? Spend $10, get the $10 item free.

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