We found out why the investigator was looking for DS. It appears that he had sex with an underage girl. He will be charged sometime this week and will then turn himself in. I am devastated not because he had sex, but that he lied to me and told me he didn't have sex with her. I am terrified that he is turning out just like his father, not able to resist anything.
Now we need to come up with the money for a lawyer. Of course DS will need to pay it since it is his problem. But none of us have money sitting around so I am not sure what he will do. His father is calling the lawyer this morning. He is supposed to let me know how much the lawyer wants. he is 18 years old so he will be treated as an adult. There is something called the close in age law in Georgia. If the two participants are within 4 years of age of each other, than it is treated differently. They were so we will find out how that works when his father talks to the lawyer.
I am devestated(not Financial)
July 25th, 2011 at 04:24 pm
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July 25th, 2011 at 04:34 pm 1311608073
So sorry to hear - as a parent is difficult when we have to face a poor choice that our child made. Hopefully your son will learn from his mistake and make wiser decisions in the future. He is fortunate to have supportive parents. I would suggest that you get your son into therapy prior to turning himself in - even if it simply an outpatient eval. I would think that such a thing would help him be viewed more favorably in light of his situation. (I've worked with Guardian Ad Litems in Cook County, Chicago - things might be different here than in Georgia), but I'd start getting character references notarized - the word of a clergy who knows your son would be valuable also.
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I hope everything works out with you and your son. It's not ok but I'm sure that it was consensual.
July 25th, 2011 at 05:36 pm 1311611794
My sister had something similar happen where her oldest daughter had sex with an underaged boyfriend and got pregnant. It was a horrible thing for the family (and the lawyer explained that in Michigan the daughter could be charged with statuatory rape), but you know, we got a beautiful grandchild out of it, and a wiser oldest niece.
Take care, dear lady.
July 25th, 2011 at 06:52 pm 1311616359
Sending positive thoughts for you and your son into the universe.
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Jerry